Stopping Self-Sabotage

On Thursday evening, October 6, I will present a free workshop on Stopping Self-Sabotage at my new office, 11912 N. Pennsylvania, Suite D-3, in Oklahoma City. You are invited to attend and bring friends if you are interested.

For many years, I have taught my clients to recognize a part within all of us that I call the Internal Saboteur. This part carries on an inner dialogue with us when it is activated by our repressing and denying our feelings, especially anger. The Saboteur is the voice of fear. It speaks the language of self-judgment, self-rejection, self-criticism, and self-deception.

Everyone has a Saboteur part. It is most powerful when we are not aware of it or how it works. The Saboteur wants us to remain in the dark about its existence. It may be telling you right now not to read another word of this blog, that it doesn't apply to you, that it's a crazy idea, and that you should steer clear of learning anything more about this.

If this is the case, you can choose to congratulate yourself for identifying your Saboteur's voice. By doing so and by naming this voice, you take back for yourself the power and influence it is accustomed to holding over you. Identifying and naming the Saboteur are acts of power. By doing so, you affirm that you are in charge of your life, your thoughts, your self-talk, and your choices.

Of course, the Saboteur appears in many disguises. In my books, I've identified many of the masks it wears to fool you about its presence and intentions. I also have developed a process for stopping Saboteur attacks and turning them into opportunities for healing.

If you're interested in learning more about Stopping Self-Sabotage and you live in the Oklahoma City area, please plan to join me Thursday, October 6 from 7-9 for the workshop. If you're interested and you don't live here, I plan to offer teleconference seminars soon. Check www.lovetips.com for announcements of upcoming phone sessions. In the meantime, check out my books Self-Sabotage: How To Stop It and Soar to Success; and Loving Your Partner Without Losing Your Self. I also have a booklet and audio tape available that are titled Meet Your Internal Saboteur and a video titled Stop Sabotaging Success. You can order any of these resources from my web site.