Radical Forgiveness

Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping is one of the finest of the hundreds of books I've read over the years. The Radical Forgiveness process Tipping presents is a paradigm shift that empowers readers to move to a level of healing and release that are far beyond what traditional forgiveness allows. Best of all, he presents his radical forgiveness process in language that is clear and concise, he makes the assumptions it is based upon explicit, and he explains complex concepts with ease and grace.

I was introduced to the book by a woman in the Thursday morning Prayer Group that meets in my office each week. Several of the group members quickly bought the book, and all of us have benefitted from reading and working with it. During the past week, I have done a number of radical forgiveness processes dealing with different issues in my life. Each one has been enormously freeing and healing.

I especially like that I can go to Tippings web site, www.radicalforgiveness.com, click on the free online tools bar, sign in, and have before me a radical forgiveness worksheet that leads me through the entire process, step by step. The worksheet is set up to allow me to write all that I need to write in order to fully experience my feelings about the subject at hand. Only when these feelings are not only faced but also deeply felt can genuine forgiveness follow.

With each stage in the process, Tipping leads me into recognizing and acknowledging that in the largest, Spiritual sense, no one is bad, wrong, or guilty. Rather we are all teachers for each other, helping one another see the repetitive patterns that we allow to define and limit us. If we are willing to look closely at the people and situations that anger and hurt us, we will discover the lessons they can teach us.

Ultimately, he helps us see that "what is" is perfect, even when we cannot condone or continue to be involved with the behavior or situation that hurts us. The perfection is in the dance two souls do together. Though often painful and difficult, the challenging experiences we encounter with those who are close to us, can teach us exactly what each of us needs to learn to grow spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. The big question is whether or not we are willing to look beyond our pain (after fully experiencing it) for the lessons it has to teach .

I've known the truth of this perspective for many years. What I am so happy to discover through Tipping's work is this marvelous process that can take me so quickly and effectively through the pain to the lessons and the healing there is in recognizing and owning them. I hope you'll read his book, visit his web site, and do your own radical forgiveness processes - as many as you need - and if you're like me, that's probably quite a few. Tipping is committed to helping heal the world we share. That's an awesome undertaking, but with all of us joining his effort, we'll make miracles of healing for ourselves and the larger world we share. Clearly it needs all the help we can manage to give.